On Sex

I feel very privileged to be able to have a lot of time to think about certain issues and form my own life path from them. they are not static views, sometimes they change.

My thoughts on sex have changed quite a bit however there are some elements that do not change. So I was having a chat with someone and the person goes. "I don't do no sex until marriage, who does that in 2013" my first thoughts were it hasn't been more necessary than now to not have sex untill marriage. My aunt works in the HIV/AIDs unit of a London Hospital, and it moves her to tears daily. Still, I digress. I told the person 'Me' 'I do that in 2013' and of course the sneer of 'Clap for yourself' 'You should be a pastor' came out as expected. Then I gave my viewpoints on the matter.

I think sex is absolutely serious, it is important, something that can create LIFE??? c'mon, let's think about it a minute. I have no doubt that sex can be amazing, but that is the thing about life, the thing capable of giving the most pleasure is capable to giving the most pain as well. Sex is not to be played with. I think sex is underrated in the way it can completely change/disrupt a person's life and also it's ability to bond people STRONGLY especially if the perceived outcome was 'Good' or 'Great' sex. I was specifically thinking of my male friends, though married who admitted that their best sex partners were not the women they were married to and if they were to met those other women privately, they can't promise that they wouldn't have sex with them again. Sex can also make you hate a person or yourself deeply especially if it's been a 'bad/terrible' experience.

Again, as someone who is particularly strong-willed, I have tried to consider these things in my own life. I have made some sexual mistakes as well but the real problem of sex is not sex itself but the monster that it can grow into when people refuse to think about their actions. Sex is then overrated and becomes a god because people come to a point where they MUST get it.

Not having sex doesn't kill, doesn't make one less attractive, less intelligent, less whatever it is that is important to their identity. In fact it is likely to rob one of these things when it goes wrong.

So far for me, there is no tangible benefit to having sex except it being a love/bonding exercise with the guy I am committed to loving and respecting. And when a new life is created what's better than having a life come into a world with two loving parents?

We are in this life of course. Mistakes happen, hearts are broken. We don't want to look back at the pain we've been through. Reality.

However it is far far better to aspire to the best than to mistakes.

Some Gay people will go to Heaven

Before, I explain why. You have to agree with the terms I am using here.


One, Gay = Homosexual behaviour, Trans or perhaps any sexually deviant behaviour.
Two, Heaven = Where God is according to 'Christianity'

You have to believe in atleast the concept of both of them, to continue reading this. Whether people were born gay or not, is not the issue of this post. People could be born with the tendency to be gay, but you know its ultimately a choice. I believe sexuality is fluid, how you fulfill the urges is what really counts towards being acceptable or not, but we make our choices at the end of the day.

Why then will Gay people (some) go to heaven? 


Romans 1:26-27: "For this cause God gave them up unto vile affections: for even their women did change the natural use into that which is against nature: And likewise also the men, leaving the natural use of the woman, burned in their lust one toward another; men with men working that which is unseemly, and receiving in themselves that recompence [sic] of their error which was meet."


I Corinthians 6: 9-10 ''Or do you not know that wrongdoers will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: Neither the sexually immoral nor idolaters nor adulterers nor men who have sex with men  nor thieves nor the greedy nor drunkards nor slanderers nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God''

The first question to ask is why YOU think YOU will go to heaven. Your gossiping is not big enough to prevent you? or perhaps your lying, is a white form of it, so it doesn't really count? Your greediness? The meat you stole from the cooking pot? Are you telling me you are a perfect person now? Do you know that sin is in thoughts, words and actions? Do you think if God judged you based on that, you would pass the test? I didn't think so. 

Facts:
Everyone comes short of the Holiness/Perfection of God (Romans 3:23) So I don't know how you think your behaviour is going to save you, saves you or saved you.


The Wages/Consequence of Sin = Death. (Romans 6: 23) This is why you need 'saving' because the result of your present life on earth, no matter how good you think you are, will only lead to death, because in sin you are separated from God. Thankfully, the second part says; but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord. 

Sick people wouldn't go to the Doctor if they didn't think they were sick. If you don't think you are a 'sinner' forget about Jesus Christ, honestly.  He came for the sick, He came for sinners.   Until you accept that you sin according to what is written in Bible (If you claim Christianity), only then can you accept you are in need of saving and consequently accept the payment on your behalf (Jesus shedding His blood on the cross) and then being thankful for it.

Therefore...

A gay person who acknowledges his 'sickness' (and this is not even just about being 'gay' sexuality is just one aspect of our lives ) and seeks the 'Doctor' will be saved from the consequence of sin in its totality which is death. How you behave as a result of believing in Jesus, will be in response to the understanding of the love and grace that is shown towards you, by doing God's will ( “Not everyone who says to Me, ‘Lord, Lord,’ shall enter the kingdom of heaven, but he who does the will of My Father in heaven” Matthew 7:21; Luke 6:46). You honestly can't claim to trust in someone, and then they ask you to do something and you say no. 


God sees the heart, unlike us who are quick to judge by outward appearances. But Out of the abundance of the heart, the mouth will surely speak. There is a big difference between these two statements;


'I am gay and God loves me like this, there is nothing wrong in what I do' and
'I am gay and God loves me like this, but I realize God doesn't like the way I behave sometimes..'

One person, is repentant and the Other isn't. One is saying, I will do God's will, the other is saying I will do mine.

Now, tell me why the repentant One would not go to heaven when the Bible clearly says;


"Everyone who calls on the name of the Lord will be saved." Romans 10: 11-13
''And everyone who calls on the name of the LORD will be saved'' Joel 2:32
''And everyone who calls on the name of the Lord will be saved'' Acts 2:21


Finito

Coming out of the closet.

I grew up as a tomboy to an extent, i loved pants and rough things, but i also loved playing with dolls and girls. I remember a play (we 'acted' a lot of dramas amongst ourselves) i was the wife i think, and my husband was a female too, and yeah we 'kissed' That was my first encounter, never thought it would have any effect on me later and sure as hell, it did not.lol

Anyway, fast forward to secondary school, the land of 'Cliques' and what not, I had this close friend who was part Camerounian and part Nigerian (Adamawaian.lol) We were very close for the most part of the years in Navy. There was always the whisper of , 'Are they lesbians??' 'you guys would fit' and all sorts. I was a bit light in complexion while she was dark, we were both slender. I really enjoyed her company but alas the last year of secondary education saw our relationship break apart. Between some dude who 'asked her out' and me saying she had 'Gorro teeth' it was never the same again. I hear she is married with kids now, i wish her all the best.

University! I really thought my life would take a new unimagined turn here, and sure it didnt. Well, i was basically just going through the motions, doing my own thing and trying to get by. I also had this tee shirt

Which i loved. I love statement tee-shirts ya know, i wore it quite proudly, i wasn't trying to refer to anybody, i  just saw it as funny, but then the comments started to waft in 'She must be Lesbian' 'Is she a lesbian' 'Honey are you gay??' lol

Soon after i became close to a girl in my class, we went everywhere together, we were both about the same height and light in complexion. One day, one of our male friends actually had the gall to look us in the eye and go 'You guys would really fit as a lesbian couple, you look good together' i didnt know whether to take this as a compliment or smack him over the head and run. Well, my friend went off to the US of A after one semester and i was left alone, i didn't get close to anyone like her , there was no one like her obviously and i really couldn't be bothered with second best.

Anyways, Life after school and in general, people would always wonder about my sexual orientation, why does it bug folk so much? i have no idea! i like that i am androgynous, but does that specify orientation? i think not. Well i guess its time i just let it out , once and for all, put smiles on some folks faces and some that would say 'hey i told you so!' here goes, 

I'm totally out of the closet now, and yup you said it, I am Heterosexual!!! (Whatever that means, but i dont swing) there! :)

Thats how the desktop saved my life...

I've got lots on my mind, so much that i cant think straight , I can't do my coursework, but the strange thing is, I dont know why exactly my mind seems foggy, but i sure know one thing, theres something about a desktop that makes you wanna work!

Yay, i got to eat real pounded yam today, but the ogbono soup could have been better, yum! i'm never touching chinese food again. i should really stick to my no-fry rule. Any food i don't cook myself and aint fried, me no eat!

Holiday

I feel like i wasted my holiday, kinda, its been great having to not think of school work, but i'm still mighty pissed i didnt get to go down to the beach, >_<. I may be travelling again tomorrow to the midlands, but here i am asking myself, why do i really want to go, i want to see the town, yeah, hang out with friends, i hope signals arent being miscommunicated here though. On thursday i've been invited to a graduation party, that should be fun, next week it all ends, going back home to Arthur.

Questions

I get asked a lot of strange questions and i wonder if i should leave the recent one to a post on its own, i probably should but it is about my sexual orientation, imagine! lol.
Another question also spurred the thoughts in my mind, the only two kinds of people i want in my life, Honest and Unpretentious. I'm done with smarm.

Movies

Watched Jaws again today, lots of memories in that one and the unforgettable theme score, doom doom doom!. Also, caught up on Curious George two, too cute! love that monkey! Last but really touching was Sex and the City, i swear the number of times this movie has evaded me is legendary! i wasnt too surprised tat the plot but it still got me emotional. I'm such a romantic it kills me! but theres nothing like being happy and making someone happy..*sigh* oo! imperfect world!

Upcoming...

I'm pretty dissapointed in myself at this point, i couldn't submit the proposal anymore, i froze. i couldnt send it. i guess thats one thing fogging my mind up, there were too many questions, i couldnt draw myself to one point. i was also sort of ill on saturday, yeah it got me down. I feel i'm dissappointing not just me. i need to step up on a lot of things. I have one more week to get things straight before going home.

I am absolutely in love with Dagny Taggart, 100%. i want to get things done like she did, i know..kinda crazy, but i feel myself  there..


Conclusion of the week, Everyone is corrupted

On Homosexuality

This topic keeps coming up everywhere

we are slammed by the brazenness of this act everywhere we turn to

its on the TV

in magazines

Sadly Nigerians are beginning to embrace this

I dont know why living in the so-called 21st century should change the laws of nature and the
guidance of Gods Holy word
The Bible states clearly in five places that homosexual behavior is sin: Leviticus 18:22; 20:13; Romans 1:26, 27; 1 Corinthians 6:9,10; and 1 Timothy 1:9,10. Sexual lust and fantasy, both homosexual and heterosexual, are sinful according to God’s Word

IT is a SIN, pure and simple

It is not your 'sexuality'
I could be attracted to a female, but thats just part of the sin nature which we were born into.

Born Gay?
The majority of homosexuals believe they were born “gay.” This belief often supplies them with comfort, relieving them of any responsibility to change. However, there is no solid scientific evidence that people are born homosexual. The overwhelming majority of gay people are completely normal genetically. They are fully male or female.

Learned Behavior
We believe homosexuality is learned behavior which is influenced by a number of factors: a disrupted family life in early years, a lack of unconditional love on the part of either parent, a failure to identify with the same-sex parent. Later, these problems can result in a search for love and acceptance, envy of the same or the opposite sex, a life controlled by various fears and feelings of isolation.

There is a difference between experiencing a pull towards homosexual acts or fantasy and choosing to give in to that pull. This is the difference between temptation and sin. We can’t fully control that which tempts us, but the choice of whether or not to pursue that which tempts is within our power. This power of choice is strengthened by the Holy Spirit.


God help us!

Excerpts from http://www.pureintimacy.org