Myths about People Like Me

On one of the INFJ professional groups I belong to, I came across this post. It is so 'on point' I have a huge desire to print many copies of it, so that I can hand to anyone who tries to disturb my life.

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TOP TEN MYTHS ABOUT INTROVERTS

Myth #1 – Introverts don’t like to talk.
This is not true. Introverts just don’t talk unless they have something to say. They hate small talk. Get an introvert talking about something they are interested in, and they won’t shut up for days.

*This is such a big myth, sometimes..i have to shout at myself to stop talking*

Myth #2 – Introverts are shy.
Shyness has nothing to do with being an Introvert. Introverts are not necessarily afraid of people. What they need is a reason to interact. They don’t interact for the sake of interacting. If you want to talk to an Introvert, just start talking. Don’t worry about being polite.

*Exactly! People would ask 'Are you shy?' and I would always answer 'Shy of what?'*

Myth #3 – Introverts are rude.
Introverts often don’t see a reason for beating around the bush with social pleasantries. They want everyone to just be real and honest. Unfortunately, this is not acceptable in most settings, so Introverts can feel a lot of pressure to fit in, which they find exhausting.

*ol' bob! if I had a penny for everytime I heard this, I would be on my own island*

Myth #4 – Introverts don’t like people.
On the contrary, Introverts intensely value the few friends they have. They can count their close friends on one hand. If you are lucky enough for an introvert to consider you a friend, you probably have a loyal ally for life. Once you have earned their respect as being a person of substance, you’re in.

*oh yes! Infact I like people so much, It's difficult because I tend to absorb their energies, so I try to keep away*

Myth #5 – Introverts don’t like to go out in public.
Nonsense. Introverts just don’t like to go out in public FOR AS LONG. They also like to avoid the complications that are involved in public activities. They take in data and experiences very quickly, and as a result, don’t need to be there for long to “get it.” They’re ready to go home, recharge, and process it all. In fact, recharging is absolutely crucial for Introverts.

*Truth*

Myth #6 – Introverts always want to be alone.
Introverts are perfectly comfortable with their own thoughts. They think a lot. They daydream. They like to have problems to work on, puzzles to solve. But they can also get incredibly lonely if they don’t have anyone to share their discoveries with. They crave an authentic and sincere connection with ONE PERSON at a time.

*Yes please..one at a time*

Myth #7 – Introverts are weird.
Introverts are often individualists. They don’t follow the crowd. They’d prefer to be valued for their novel ways of living. They think for themselves and because of that, they often challenge the norm. They don’t make most decisions based on what is popular or trendy.

*Exactly! if this makes me weird, then good!*

Myth #8 – Introverts are aloof nerds.
Introverts are people who primarily look inward, paying close attention to their thoughts and emotions. It’s not that they are incapable of paying attention to what is going on around them, it’s just that their inner world is much more stimulating and rewarding to them.

*lol*

Myth #9 – Introverts don’t know how to relax and have fun.
Introverts typically relax at home or in nature, not in busy public places. Introverts are not thrill seekers and adrenaline junkies. If there is too much talking and noise going on, they shut down. Their brains are too sensitive to the neurotransmitter called Dopamine. Introverts and Extroverts have different dominant neuro-pathways. Just look it up.

*Sometimes you have to wonder if there is a universal standard for fun, that people use to judge your preferences*

Myth #10 – Introverts can fix themselves and become Extroverts.

A world without Introverts would be a world with few scientists, musicians, artists, poets, filmmakers, doctors, mathematicians, writers, and philosophers. That being said, there are still plenty of techniques an Extrovert can learn in order to interact with Introverts. (Yes, I reversed these two terms on purpose to show you how biased our society is.) Introverts cannot “fix themselves” and deserve respect for their natural temperament and contributions to the human race. In fact, one study (Silverman, 1986) showed that the percentage of Introverts increases with IQ.

“You cannot escape us, and to change us would lead to your demise''

Now what do you say? :D

011110

The number palindrome, this is a significant day for me, and perhaps millions of the world population, Some were born and some died. I am glad to be among the living. My sister also gave birth to a baby girl in the wee hours of the day, bless. At that time, on my own side of the world, I had passed through an experience both sordid and enlightening.

In true INFJ style, I don't like confrontations, and I would avoid it as much as possible, 'cause I know depending on the level, things may never go back to how they were.. but what do you do when someone puts it on you. It's my initial reaction to resist or get stubborn about it. Alas, I was dealing with the wrong person. It hurt me just thinking about the implications of things said, and I couldn't hold back the tears. Which further escalated the whole brouhaha. Anyways, I know I'm hard hearted to an extent, I wasn't always this way, but life has made me so. Some may argue that I haven't any experience, but I have seen with my own two eyes what Humans can do to Humans.

I cried a whole lot, and while still recovering from my 'flu' wasn't a good look. Everything I wanted to say sounded better in my head, but I just couldn't communicate effectively the way I felt, because my state of mind was hurt and very torn.

Anyway, I do understand that a whole lot of what happened was my fault, If i was serious enough, I wouldn't even be in the vincinity in the first place, for such to happen. I can only hope that it never does take place again, that I may look upon this day and just laugh and perhaps not remember..lol. I realise it's possible to love someone without liking them. Now I know a couple, I don't like.

Life is wasted on people

Watched a movie at the Tyneside today, Greenberg..obviously not for everybody. i mean if dish dish bam bam is your kinda movie, Do not watch this!

I probably wont have watched this at a cinema but hey! it was student night..so.yeah.

Well, The movie is about a New-Yorker, recently out of the hospital after a nervous breakdown. He house sits in LA and finds himself in a desperate but very honest display of the human need to connect and not feel alone with his brother's 25 year old assistant. The plot is somewhat relevant, but way more interesting is all the beautiful awkward, and all too common moments of life that, well, just happen. Stiller has a haunting way of being neurotic and self-consumed, yet thoughtful and full of heightened awareness

I really did like it, there were odd moments of sexual stuff and nakedness.. i mean i was watching the movie with a guy friend..Awkward!! cos i still get really embarrassed about such.

Anyway,  laughed a lot, quit loudly too, i was convinced Stillers character was an INFJ with major OCD issues

The only low point was, popcorn was hella expensive..gawd!lol, and some old man, turned and spoke some geordie gibberish, i still don't to this moment know exactly what he was trying to complain about.

Recommended movie!

More INFJ stuff

I hope I aint obsessing too much, I took this test last year, but had to write a report lately which used aspects of it, so I've been reading stuff and I'm sharing :)

Of the sixteen type personalities, only about 2% of the population fall into this category, so consider yourself pretty privileged to know me! In practical terms, that means I'm pretty quiet around new people but a wonderful, faithful and a fiercely loyal friend once you get to know me. I usually vacillate between completely serious and totally crazy. I am generally quick witted and full of contradictions such as, I like control, but prefer to be the passenger and the listener. I am very easy going, easy to get along with, and extremely tolerable of most any situation. I'm very attentive and understanding.

The INFJ takes his/her energy from the inner world of thoughts and emotions. He/she prefers dealing with patterns and possibilities, particularly for people, and makes decisions using personal values. 

His/her life is organized on a personal basis. He/she often has a private sense of purpose in life, and works steadily to fulfil that goal. He/she demonstrates a quiet concern for people, being interested in helping them to develop and grow. He/she is good at developing insight into people, though it can often remain unexpressed.

(I) Introversion:
People who prefer introversion tend to focus on the inner world of ideas and impressions.
(N) iNtuition:
People who prefer intuition tend to focus on the future, with a view toward patterns and possibilities.
(F) Feeling:
People who prefer feeling tend to base their decisions primarily on values and on subjective evaluation of person-centered concerns.
(J) Judgement:
People who prefer judgment tend to like a planned and organized approach to life and prefer to have things settled.

Quietly forceful, original, and sensitive. Tend to stick to things until they are done. Extremely intuitive about people, and concerned for their feelings. Well-developed value systems which they strictly adhere to. Well-respected for their perseverance in doing the right thing. Likely to be individualistic, rather than leading or following.

INFJs are warm and affirming people who are usually also deep and complex. They're likely to seek out and promote relationships that are intense and meaningful. They tend to be perfectionists, and are always striving for the Ultimate Relationship.

For the most part, this is a positive feature, but sometimes works against the INFJ if they fall into the habit of moving from relationship to relationship, always in search of a more perfect partner. In general, the INFJ is a deeply warm and caring person who is highly invested in the health of their close relationships, and puts forth a lot of effort to make them positive. They are valued by those close to them for these special qualities. They seek long-term, lifelong relationships, although they don't always find them...sad eh

INFJ Strengths

--Warm and affirming by nature
--Dedicated to achieving the ultimate relationship Sensitive and concerned for others' feelings
--Usually have good communication skills, especially written
--Take their commitments very seriously, and seek lifelong relationships....100% true
--Have very high expectations for themselves and others (both a strength and weakness)....80% true
--Good listeners......depends on the person.lol, but 100% true
--Are able to move on after a relationship has ended (once they're sure it's over)....100% true!!

INFJ Weaknesses

--Tendency to hold back part of themselves....very much so
--Not good with money(untrue) or practical day-to-day life necessities....well to an extent
--Extreme dislike of conflict and criticism.....I DO NOT like conflicts oooh, very unsettling
--Have very high expectations for themselves and others (both a strength and weakness)
--Have difficulty leaving a bad relationship...... I don't think so

INFJs are warm, considerate partners who feel great depth of love for their partners. They enjoy showing this love, and want to receive affirmation back from their mates.They are perfectionists, constantly striving to achieve the Perfect Relationship. This can sometimes be frustrating to their mates, who may feel put upon by the INFJs demanding perfectionism. However, it may also be greatly appreciated, because it indicates a sincere commitment to the relationship, and depth of caring which is not usually present in other types. 

Sexually, INFJs view intimacy as a nearly spiritual experience. They embrace the opportunity to bond heart and soul with their mates. As service-oriented individuals, it's very important to them that their mates are happy. Intimacy is an opportunity for the INFJ to selflessly give their love, and experience it in a tangibleway. Match with ENTP or ENFP.

"Idealists" (INFJ) search for ideal love, longing to find the perfect "soul mate" with whom they can share their inner lives

Something i found

INFJ Women

They are sensual
Their inner beauty, essential
Allow me to send them my regards
In the sky of intellectuals
They are stars

A different kind of sensuality
Caught between dream
And reality

An inner world for few to find
A hidden treasure
To which most are blind

They enchant me
With their unnatural naturality
They entrance me
Cast a spell on me
With their peaceful audacity

Is it so wrong to patronize
In this thought of mine
Alone agonize
Thinking they are sexy
Sensual women in disguise

INFJ women are sexy
Beautiful inside
Sensual on the outside
Angels in nature
Amazing on both sides

Steve Palaras

The Protector

Thats what one of the profiles says my type is...
Confused?
Thought as much.

Errhm, One of the first semester requirements for a particular module was to take a test called the Myers-Briggs Type indicator test. There are 12 identified types and if you do the test honestly to the best of your ability and thinking faculty. You should get something atleast 80% accurate, i kid you not. This is a tried and tested measure..of course its not perfect, how can?!? but it hits the spot at some points.

So well i came up as an 


INFJ

What’s it like to be me?

The quest for more knowledge, the meaning of life, the philosophical questions—my mind is always occupied, and what’s exciting is when I get to follow through with an insight and do something. I am an abstract future thinker, looking at things from different perspectives. I’m about the relationships and possibilities and enjoy anything with deeper meaning that leaves me wondering, with more questions to ask and things to untangle. Connecting for me means being able to intuitively ask questions of people to get them to go deeper into the things they are talking about.

Inspiring others, helping them find their purpose or meaning, being a different kind of leader from what’s traditional—that’s really gratifying. I just do that naturally. The challenge is opening up people’s minds to have their own original thoughts. I’m a listener and guide.

I think I am a mystery to people. They never really understand me and part of me enjoys that. More often though, I long to be understood.

I tend to approach my day with a structured way of getting things accomplished. People see me as organized, thorough, and easy to get along with, pulling my own weight and eager to help out when called upon. But I’m not as outgoing or as critical as I may sometimes appear. I need a balance between people contact and working on creative projects and will break away from interactions when I get tired out. If I don’t have some long-term goals, then what’s the point

I tend to intuitively read people very quickly, but I have to be cautious not to make assumptions. I’m an observer. I get a feeling when people are interesting, and I watch from a distance, make some assessments about the situation, and then approach them and engage in conversation. I put a little bit out and a little more and see how that goes. Do I trust and like them, are they who they say? I have a few deep friendships. A friendship comes best when it is worked to develop that investment. I quickly pick up on sincerity and withdraw if the person is superficial or obviously doesn’t care. When I see people who abuse their power or won’t stand behind what they say, that ticks me off. It’s about integrity. I feel other people’s feelings, and taking on that burden can make me too intense and serious, where I can’t be spontaneous and fun loving...

Everything revolves around growth. Caring is about the ability to help others grow. What I bring is caring about people, not things. If we spent more time trying to understand each other’s point of view, to communicate more effectively, we would grow. In an honest, open, sincere relationship, I can accomplish anything. My challenge is to create those kinds of relationships. 

I respect most the person who is willing to come forth and be an individual—to make the world a better place, or make a difference in a person’s life, where we reach each other’s hearts.