Can I date an Atheist.

Yes, only an Atheist who is unsure of his beliefs, would be able to tolerate me, someone who not only believes God exists, but also believes in God. Maybe, we can't really call this person an Atheist, but many tend to wear the garment without really knowing what it means.

I was answering this question on my twitter timeline when someone decided to engage me in a debate. I had initially said that Atheists weren't as tolerant as spiritual people. I tried to put it mildly but the truth is Atheism DOES NOT tolerate 'God'. It's absurd to think it does, if it does then, it's no longer Atheism. In fact If I was Atheist, I'd be livid if someone thought otherwise.

What is Atheism? In a broad sense, it is the rejection of belief in the existence of deities. Simply put by Wikipedia, It hasn't been disputed, that's why it's the number one result I get when I type 'Atheism' in google.

This person went on to argue that he was operating under the premise that, An Atheist is simply one who believes in the absence of God. He felt i was painting Atheists with too broad a brush. How??

I tried to let him know, Atheism wasn't what he took it to be. Atheism is not about the absence of God. Atheism is a total denial of existence. 

Atheism is like a vacuum. Putting tolerance under Atheism is like saying a vacuum should have some fresh air. How can it? and still remain a vacuum? to tolerate any matter. It would no longer be a Vacuum. 

Why is Spirituality more tolerant?

A vacuum can exist in a place filled with matter, but nothing can exist in a vacuum.

So, really..Date an Atheist??

When it really comes down to it, dating a True Atheist would be really difficult, especially for the Atheist. But it is quite hard to date someone who believes you are 100% deluded for believing a god exists.

Breaking John 3:16

John 3:16 – The Essence

It's hard to imagine a world like ours, without a beginning, without an end, and without a creator, It would just be senseless and void. But I believe there is a story behind us all being here.

'God so Loved the world'  

God created the world designed it as lovingly as possible. In Genesis, it is written 'It was good'. He never stopped loving the world, even when Adam and Co disrupted their stay in the garden. This opened the world up to sin, and all became corrupt. People have since had to struggle with sins. The Israelites had to sacrifice goats and cows continuously just to say 'sorry', how tedious!

This can also be likened to the Israelites in Egypt, when God wanted to deliver them out of the hands of the Pharaoh, The Passover (Exodus 11-12). God telling a story of Love. 

'That He sent His only begotten son'  

God loved the world, but the world had done wrong, and since ‘wrong’ has consequences someone has to bear them. The world is basically in jail but there is an option for bail (because of Love). Someone has to come and pay the bail because a prisoner cannot bail him/herself out. For justice to be done,  the prisoner has to serve the complete punishment or someone else has to take the burden. In His love and mercy, Jesus was sent to ‘pay the bail’ and release the world from jail. The bail was the blood shed on the cross, which replaced the goats and cows which were not enough. ‘Without the shedding of blood, there cannot be forgiveness of sins’

Continuing the parallel story, God sent the Angel of death to deliver justice to the Israelites in Egypt out of his Love.

'that WHOSOEVER believes IN him'

People tend to confuse Believing in and Believing. Believing, is just acknowledging the Existence of something, while Believing IN, means to Trust in or Rely on something. And this phrase tells us, That EVERYONE (regardless of sex, age, gender, terminology, 'race', tribe, anything you can think of) who TRUSTS IN/ RELIES ON Jesus... Similarly Everyone who believes that Someone came to post bail for them. They just didn't believe that the person came to the police station/prison. But that the person actually posted bail, which could only mean one thing!! FREEDOM!

Basically, If someone posted bail for you, and you believe it, I doubt you will remain in Jail. You will run out screaming, shouting and thanking God. But anyone who doesn’t believe, even though bail has been posted, they will remain in Jail, because its incomprehensible to them.

In Egypt, The direction was if you believe the angel of Death was coming, regardless of whom you were (Israelite or Egyptian) and put the blood on your door (following the specific instructions), It will pass your house over. Israelites who didn't believe, had their homes visited, and damage done. It's as simple as that, amazing stuff. We also have our part to play in the process. We need to BELIEVE IN (Hearing and Doing).

'Will not Perish'

If you believe in/trust in/rely on Jesus, the wages (payment) of sin (death) is removed from over your head. Justice has been done, you are scot-free. Your slate as been wiped clean, you are released from jail! Nothing is held against you, no need to pay or (work) for anything, because someone has paid for you! Bless God.

The Israelites and Egyptians, who believed in the words of God, Their Sons DID NOT perish, what a blessing!

'But have everlasting life'

I am quite certain the opposite of Death is Life!! And to have it everlasting..wow!. Not only were our debts paid, but we had our account credited to the maximum, which means we could never go back to jail, regardless of what we do in future. We were not only released from jail, but also adopted into the family of the one who posted bail, What grace!! We are basically 'Born Again'

Same in Egypt, all those who were spared, woke up the next day to hear wailing though out the land, and I'm sure they felt 'born again' from the darkness of the previous night because they’d been spared.

How marvellous the Essence of our Faith, as simple as it is, still incomprehensible by many who feel they have to 'work it' out

The Grace and Love of God, Psalm 100:5 can be translated in different ways, but its message stays the same God's mercy and love is 'Forever', His Loving-kindness is 'Everlasting' and to (not some) ALL! Generations. 

Peace! :)

The Essence

It was only until recently that it dawned on me, that someone could actually be a Christian without believing in Jesus. It is definitely a very misunderstood word. Where did it come from? The word "Christian" is found only three times in the Bible. All the instances of its occurrence are in the New Testament. The references at which one will find the words are: Acts 11:26; 26:28; 1 Peter 4:16. In Acts 11:26. The word 'Christian' comes from the Greek word "cristianos," as we would spell it in English. The ancient Greek word meant "a person belonging to, one who is the property of, or a slave of Christ." The disciples and all those who had chosen to 'follow' Jesus, were called this out of jest , In Acts 11, it says the Disciples were called Christian. They never went about calling themselves that but anyway it stuck. 

What people don't realise is, words are just words, terms are just terms. The true Essence is believing in/trusting in/relying on Jesus. John 3:16, is perhaps one of the most popular verses. 'For God so loved the world, that He sent His only begotten Son, that WHOSOEVER believes IN him, shall not perish but have everlasting life'. This completely captures THE ESSENCE. It didn't say, WHOSOEVER acts like him, shall not perish... for example...'Christian' 'Christ-Like'. So today, we see so many Christians (Valid), who sadly, do not really believe. They do good works..but don't know the essence.

Beneath the Surface

I read in my devotional today that
We should stop judging by appearances
By the way things look
Discriminating based on whatsoever criteria is
Absolutely wrong
Look beneath the surface.



You keep judging me
By the coverings you see
You can’t understand
They aren’t as real
As what is beneath the skin
You have forgotten about the person within
You can’t comprehend
The beauty underneath


You keep abusing me
Afraid of what i may be
You can’t perceive the real thing
Carried away by fear
You can’t stand me near
Cause you can’t recognise
The treasures inside

Im truly within
The splendour, oh can’t you see
The treasures that are all in me
Put in, by the Almighty!

Sin!

Sin,
Is like toxic air
U can’t breathe
Ur in constant fear
U can’t go anywhere
U’d b trapped in a snare
Steer clear from this air
Sin.

Musings

The weakest soul knowing its weakness and believing this truth that strength can only come through effort and pratice will, thus believing, at once begin to exert itself, adding effort to effort, strength to strength, and patience to patience, will never cease to develop and would at last, Grow divinely

Friendship is an inexpressible comfort of feeling safe with a person, having never to weigh your thoughts nor measure your words!

Her heart was broken
many times before
her face looked frozen
you's know she wasn't just sore
She had fallen
Yes, she had
But she was still chosen
By the One
By the son
Who died on the cross

On Homosexuality

This topic keeps coming up everywhere

we are slammed by the brazenness of this act everywhere we turn to

its on the TV

in magazines

Sadly Nigerians are beginning to embrace this

I dont know why living in the so-called 21st century should change the laws of nature and the
guidance of Gods Holy word
The Bible states clearly in five places that homosexual behavior is sin: Leviticus 18:22; 20:13; Romans 1:26, 27; 1 Corinthians 6:9,10; and 1 Timothy 1:9,10. Sexual lust and fantasy, both homosexual and heterosexual, are sinful according to God’s Word

IT is a SIN, pure and simple

It is not your 'sexuality'
I could be attracted to a female, but thats just part of the sin nature which we were born into.

Born Gay?
The majority of homosexuals believe they were born “gay.” This belief often supplies them with comfort, relieving them of any responsibility to change. However, there is no solid scientific evidence that people are born homosexual. The overwhelming majority of gay people are completely normal genetically. They are fully male or female.

Learned Behavior
We believe homosexuality is learned behavior which is influenced by a number of factors: a disrupted family life in early years, a lack of unconditional love on the part of either parent, a failure to identify with the same-sex parent. Later, these problems can result in a search for love and acceptance, envy of the same or the opposite sex, a life controlled by various fears and feelings of isolation.

There is a difference between experiencing a pull towards homosexual acts or fantasy and choosing to give in to that pull. This is the difference between temptation and sin. We can’t fully control that which tempts us, but the choice of whether or not to pursue that which tempts is within our power. This power of choice is strengthened by the Holy Spirit.


God help us!

Excerpts from http://www.pureintimacy.org

Flesh or Spirit

Your body tries to control you
Don't let it!
Your body must be put under
if you want to live forever
Your body must be crucified
so you can live in Christ

Your spirit is the Real thing
Be conscious of this being
Your Spirit loves to obey Him
thats who you should strive to be
your spirit must control
Your body must submit to higher authority
Which is your spirit in the Lord Almighty

Excerpts Form T.D Jakes...

The Lady
Without love, life is bland and success is empty
Quiet moments alone allow us to explore how deeply we are committed to our sense of healthy well being and fortitude.
We are connoisseurs of the fine architectural design of life, love and the echange of human energy.

There is nothing worse than giving the right thing to the wrong person
In order to truly give ur self you must appreciate the gifts you possess
You train others how to treat you by how you treat urself

It is the upward reach of the Spirit
And the inward reach of the soul
That enables the outward reach of the body.

Three P’s you should follow
Prayer; Pray for strength, things you have no control over
Praise; God for survival, grace
Pamper: Give urself a treat, eat out alone.

Her Lover
True love is like fine wine, growing sweeter as it ages

A good lover is the one that stays when all others have walked away

Younglove is like Springtime, Everything is fresh and new
By summer it blossoms
By Autumn, its comfortable
By winter, its an evergreen plant

What it takes
You must marry in the faith
Your partner should satisfy your body,mind and soul
Body; You must be physically attracted to him
Mind; you must be of like minds, able to talk, listen and enjoy each others company
Soul; you must share similar values, share the same map
Spirit; you must flow in the same spirit, the Spirit of God

True intimacy is the bonding of hearts that gives the feeling of acceptance and not the tangling of flesh

He should be ur Husband, Protector,Lover and Brother
Being lovers is being someones place of habitation, recreation and rrest
Being lovers means that a couple has directional focus that has centered them on the commitment to fulfil each others needs.

He must be able to trust u
.Your motives
.To be fulfilled in wanting only him
.Not to change
.Not to use his openness against him
.To establish trust, just listen
.Not to compete with him

What is Marriage
This is the collaboration of two hearts that join together to overcome the obstacles of life and create an atmosphere of shared pleasure and deeper love

Our words matter more than we can imagine
A woman who knows what to say is a mighty power ful voice
Men deeply appreciate a woman full of kind words

What is Love
Love is a dialogue, one that occurs between two people who do not know what the others response will be

Even if you have more degrees than a thermometer, more money than a bank, you r better looking than a Hawaiian sunset, if you lack the ability to be a partner in a storm, a soul mate in times of desolation, you are nothing at all!

Be Three times a Lady
The mother he needs
The friend he neva had
The lover he dreamed about

Life as a Spirit

Beyond this physical terrain
There's an invisible domain
Where angels battle over souls in vast array
But down on earth is where I am
No wings to fly, no place to stand
Here on my knees I am a stranger in this land

I need an intervention
A touch of providence
It goes beyond religion
To my very circumstance

Its Supernatural