The Point of No Return.

If someone told me I would have boy drama in my life, I would have just laughed at their face. This year alone, I've had three which is a major WTH for me. Once upon a time I blogged about a certain Magician here and here   We had a bit of history, bla bla...

Well, the magician is getting married. It's funny how the same thing I was trying to avoid from doing to someone happened to me. Once upon a time I saw my sister's friend's (VERY close friend) photo on his phone. To say I was surprised is an understatement, but of course statements like "It's a small world" and "She was chasing me" is what I got to hear. Anyways matter dropped.

Somehow I get to hear that Magician is getting married and to whom? A girl that I was in the same class with for 5 years of Uni and we all knew each other before they even started dating. He said it all started casual between them and then escalated. Ok.

I think I may be reacting to the whole thing badly, but I honestly at this point do not want to hear nada about their life. I'm finally accepting that we were never really friends none of us. *sigh* That's the hard part to take, I guess. I was a bit of a friend to the girl, not friend friend but friend enough to chat here and there, have pictures taken together bla bla. I told him though, I really wish it was someone else. 

He admitted to have been holding out for a bit...but I am a strong believer in people taking responsibility for their actions, there is no one to blame. I told him, that we weren't meant to be and that we had reached the point of no return, and for me now, there's no need to pretend that there was any form of friendship. Magician wanted to be married and he has gotten what he wanted. I really do wish 'em the best.

The Best place to meet a 'Mate'

A friend swears today that I will marry a guy I met on the internet and he will be there for my wedding. 'Probably' I told him, I also had to laugh then and we went into a discussion of marriage, weddings and the love we share ^_^ lol.

It was only a while ago that I was thinking up what to post today, that it came to me that I had read an article somewhere which asked 'Where is the best place to find a mate' . There's something funny in my head when someone says 'mate' I instantly think 'Animal Kingdom'...But the responses were really funny. Some said if you are in the States, ''go to a harvard business school conference...there you will meet fine bobos and sisis with bright prospects. never fails!'' very funny. Many locations, like the church, work, weddings, library, even clubs were mentioned. I decided to google to see what I could find. 

According to

• Cosmo, http://shar.es/0Ryrt The Apple Store! hilarious 
• BNET, http://bit.ly/ciOIX7

(1) Work (2) Health Clubs (3) Church (4) Homes and parties of mutual friends (5) Weddings (6) Conferences and Conventions (7) Social and Community Organizations (8) Public Transportation - Bus Stops,Train Stations, Airports (9) Laundromats (10) Supermarkets

For me, I couldn't be bothered to go out normally but, 

Work - I have worked around attractive young men, but they were mostly 'taken' so, severely off my sights, I only had one married guy, who still claims love for me even now after 2yrs so interested in me. I don't like the idea to be honest.

Health Clubs - Maybe I need to google and find them ASAP! lol

Church - I always feel weird when I am approached in church on this matter, one reason I don't go to the same church more than twice in a row, Infact I stopped going to church altogether (jking) but yeah, it erks me, but i know its very possible.

Homes and Parties of friends - Hmm, but I wouldn't go to a party just like that, haven't been to a house party since I was a teenager (ok ok...still trying to remember)

Weddings - I don't attend weddings, my mum used to say, 'If you don't attend other people's weddings who will attend yours?' Well it works for me! 'cause I don't want every T, D and H at mine! I only attended two weddings in more than ten years, My sisters' and my friend, where I was on her train, Those are the only exceptions I make.

Conferences and Conventions - Just like the Harvard thing.lol, Hmm..I don't like large crowds, I could only go with a group of people and I would be extremely businesslike here, In fact you go fear my face, I doubt any guy would be sizing me up! lol

Social and Community Organizations - A bit more chill than the above, I actually wouldn't mind.

Public Transportation - I think of Nigeria, and I'm filled with laughter. Well I have locked eyes with a few guys, exchanged smiles even said a few words. This one could be quite romantic ^_^

Laundromats - I don't go there, I actually wanted to go once, but I postponed it like no tomorrow, I just couldn't be bothered meeeehn.

Supermarket - If He offers to pay for my monthly shopping, why not! if not, No can do! hehe. Honestly, I would dislike being approached here, It could be nice, who knows!

Anyhow, I do know I’ve met the best men (mate material.lol) so far in my life ONLINE! lol! I spend lots of my time on here so why not, and it wasn’t at any dating site..pls I can’t spend any money, I’m not that desperate.lol. And none of us were ‘looking’ But me I can’t date anyone I haven’t actually seen or interacted with physically. The ones I got to meet physically so far, have been really great guys (some) but not just for me  . Still hoping to meet one very awesome guy next month, fingers crossed.hehe

Therefore! The best place you can meet your ‘mate’ is where people are! and You can meet people ANYWHERE, online or offline. If they will be your mate consequently...depends on who they are, and not where you met them. It depends on your compatibility and level of commitment, not location.

So much to say...

Yesterday I actually had the inspiration to blog about Nigeria. But today the passion is gone. There's too much one can say about Nigeria and where we are at, at 50yrs of Independence from the British Empire (as if). Anyways, I need to channel the little energy I have into something else. There are a couple of things that make me happy I was born into the entity known as Nigeria. But that would be a post for another day.

About my hair, I think i worship it too much these days, maybe that's why I'm being led to cut it all off (LOL!) I dyed it and...oh well my hair turned out quite red, one packet of dye is now obviously not enough for my thick hair (Lesson learnt) So I have the front of my hair, a coppery gold and the back, stark raven black. I want to love it, but i wanted something better!! this (LOL) >>

Men and their issues, So glad to be finally done (He's done) with me, nothing like having a nut off your back, Lord have mercy! I don't know where I am headed in this new adventure, But God dey.

New Projects, New things. I've got a number of ideas flowing in and out, I'm an ideas person, but turning them into something other than ideas, thats where the major issues lie. Dang. Hopefully I have enough energy to carry me through. I really don't want to work a 9-5 but if it would help my projects, so be it.

Wheew.

Someday

I would really love to sing for some people,
this will be the song
Perfect.


You were so blind to let me go
You had it all but did not know
No one you'll find will ever be
Closer to all your dreams than me
Believing the grass would be greener
You told yourself "I just don't need her now"
But I know you'll soon discover
You're never satisfied with any other

Chorus:
Someday Oo Someday
One you gave away will be the only one you're wishing for
Someday hey hey
Boy you're gonna pay 'cause baby I'm the one who's keeping score

You'll change your mind and call my name
Soon as you find they're all the same
And when you find yourself alone
Don't come back crying
You should have known
Believe me I'm not pretending
It's not hard to predict
This ending now
'Cause I know you'll soon discover
You're needing me in spite of all the others

Chorus x2

Maybe now you just can't conceive
That there'll ever come a time when you're cold and lonely
Baby, how could you ever believe
That another could replace me
The one and only
But when your down
In your time of need
And you're thinking that you 
Might be coming back to own me
Just think again 'cause
I won't need your love anymore!

Chorus 

Somedaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay









Thank You Mariah! :D

Heart Versus Head

I am definitely more likely to follow my heart than my head. But I have learnt that to survive in this world you need to have a good balance of both. Your heart where feelings lie, should be in tune with your head, which deals with logic and reason.

At the very stage I am at now. I have drawn a lot from my heart and thankfully reason has been there to guide my decisions.



I have finally said, Yes.

Message from Timberland.

Hello gorgeous,i am a stranger i know, but i will have to tell u this u are pretty and if u can just give me the opportunity to know u probably exchange our id maybe we could be friend to be sincere with u i am a lover boy and i am looking for true love i am looking for someone to set my soul free as u know that any friendship start somehow like this,one thing there are so many question that i have for u so many things that i wanna say please i think there is no crime at all if u love somebody and u walk up to her and tell her to her face.i will be waiting to read from you soon and we don't know maybe we are the new lover to be.only God knows

I Care Timberland.

Hello

Hello

My name is Rowland.I am a Nigerian located in Nigeria.I am 34 years old single and never married.

I am a Consultant.

I saw and picked interest in you and would want to get to know you better.

In a nutshell i would want to go into a committing and serious relationship with you.

Can we work something out.I really want to know you better.

Lastly can i call you on phone please.

Sorry if i am bothering you.But i am really serious.

I am waiting

Rowland




WHAT THE CRACK?! upon all my security on facebook.
Do people still fall for this???

The Power

Celine Dion even sang about it, 'The power of Love' and being the romantic, naive female i am, i believed it.

Until yesterday, when my Uncle had a frank talk with me, heck i was tres embarrassed, but fact is fact. I came to the sad realization that the power didn't lie in Love.

I began to understand why a young graduate who has everything going for her, would stick to an ex-convict, who has no iota of 'kind' in him. Why a young lady would drive herself to debt just so she can marry the dashing young 'jobless-with no spine for better' male. I understood, but i couldn't sympathize.

No one readily admits it,they use 'Love' to mask it. Now I know the truth, What am I going to do?

8 hours after....

I still feel weak and generally full of watery xxxx. But I expected him to come to me. But he expected me to go to him, one of the Magicians. Or....was I expecting too much from this honest man? heck, I'm the ill one.

More ORT to take, dry rice, garri..e.t.c and I would be Southward-bound tomorrow.

Why are you still single they ask..

Because the internet won't allow me.
That and the fact that I am extremely slow to react in relationships.
I'm always stuck in this apathetic/sarcastic/witty/lazy/frivolous mood that makes it hard for people to gauge whether I'm serious or not, so they usually give up on me.
Nobody has been able to figure out my paradoxical nature yet.
If you can tolerate me for more than a few months I'll give you free brownies, and a place to sleep beside me at night

.

The Magicians

A bird from no where, flowers from behind your ears, rabbits in a hat, things that werent there, now appear.
Sleight of hand you say, maybe, maybe not. But the Magician gets things to come.
Do you know any? I know some.
They thrive on the principle, if they want something it comes to them, who am I to fault this?
as long as I am not the 'thing' they want.
when I become the 'object' they lose their magic. I will not come.

If you want something, go, do and try to get it, forget magic.

Oh My, This Is Awkward

So, this week has been a mix of what not and things you really don't wanna know. Living without internet in my house, blessing or curse, i really can't decide.

But what do you when when you are walking with a guy you just met at 1am, and you walk past a store with a nicely made up bed in the show window, then you say something like 'Aah this is the bed of fantasies' and he says
'Oh what do you fantasize about, tell me..i fantasize about handcuffs and being blindfolded'  O.O *Crickets* O.O
 then you say 'I only fantasize about sleeping and having happy dreams'  because you know..you've been having visions and nightmares lately. then he says 'Ooh ok, our fantasies are different'  *__*

Yesterday

Do i like Him? i dont know, i usually respond to peoples' feelings for me. If i feel nothing, response = 0 and so on and so forth, bad thing? i dont know, but its something i've come to learn about myself, But i swear , iv daydreamed about it a lot, thats how i fall asleep. If i feel nothing...., the clock is ticking, i would find something else to daydream about.



In other news,

Went further south from the midlands, my back hurts, from coach to tube to train, damm! i am wasted. Went for a grad party, it was cool to hang around and meet new people. oh yeah, i was standing by myself at Waterloo waiting for my friend so we could both hit the party, and here comes this dude with gold in his teeth trying to chat me up. First he gave a wink as he passed me, but he came back. 'i like ur hair' i smile sheepishly 'oh ur so cute, are you american?' 'Why are you acting like guys dont try to hit on you' then i see my friend coming, and i smile 'oh your..' the guy says, i give a nod while my friend gives me a hug, the guy smiles and saunters away. Oh thou commuters!

Meanwhile, just before i got to the station...this guy, a muslim, gets on my car while in the tube, to be honest i was scared for like 5minutes, what if he was a suicide bomber??..... i had thought. Well this deserves a post on its own and i will find time to do it, 'The stereotype we feed'

Before i go to sleep, just a little word on the documentary on BBC 'Welcome to Lagos' I really liked it, it was so refreshing to hear Naija-speak not like the disappointment Blood and Oil wrought. I loved the frankness of the stories. I guess the only thing i didnt like was that it was incomplete. I didnt recognise Lagos, because the docu started out in the slums, and if that is Lagos. I was bred in some other state then. I would have imagined that the documentary would give a brief overview of what Lagos is and then zoom into the slum, dump areas. Anyway, it was emotional and really good plus i loved the soundtrack! ^_^

So there, Night! my eyes are already half way down...

Guys and Down south

Right! i got a wide smile from an older long loc-ed guy on a train, im so happy, i must be attracting the right attention now with my hair-do! lol.

Guys Guys, relationships!! i swear if i had my way these issues wont come up at all, but then again almost every discussion i have with people seems to always lapse into this. I can't say ive got guys chasing after me, atleast not in the way i'd imagine.hehe. but can't life have meaning without all these tasking emotions??

It may be that i'm looking for the perfect dude, i dunno, i just want a human being that makes sense to me! I just got to read Ayn Rand's Atlas Shrugged, late? i know. I read Fountainhead long time ago, but only just got around to Atlas..and i love when i read a book, where i have connections to the female characters..

i could be Dagny, i love her. thats the kind of person i could see myself as, and the connection i would want with guys..I also hear that Angelina Jolie is up to play Dagny Taggart, that would be perfect because i love Angelina too!!! Sigh, back to earth you say. Then again, like i said if i had my way, these issues wont be brought up!

So i've been moving quite around in a space of three days, and i still have about 20hrs in journey time to clock. ive been sleeping like a sheep! better now, cause in three weeks i wont have that luxury. Still have a lot of coursework to get through! woo

This weekend went with some folk , guy i knew back in uni, really sad, then Abubakar Rimi..heart attack,..jeez. What can we do? nothing but LiVe the life we are given.

Quote of the day: 'I hired you to do your job, not your best...whatever that is' -- Dagny

CNT

Woke up yesterday and just couldn't move, pretty important day at school and my legs gave out. I had a massive headache to boot, pretty shitty start to my day. Went back to sleep and finally made a way out by 12pm. I've had this numbness in my legs on and off, i just hope the blood test doesn't return anything scary. I really hate not being where i ought to be, even if it turns into a waste of time, my day was pretty much mapped out before i went to bed. And then things didn't go as planned, a real bummer.

Anyways *Sigh*

I went to get some dairy products, then tried to look for the Indian vermicelli (Kheer), no shop around had it and i had to settle for some over sweet 'thing', never again!

Blast from the past

Once upon a time not too distant in the past, was a guy i liked. He disappointed me a number of times, not intentional i reckon, still it wasn't a good look. He 'disappears', for well a long time and then he showed up yesterday. Said he was sorry and all. Good good, happy new year.

Also! i watched Splash!! Tom Hanks looked so cuuute.lol, I cant believe people thought Daryl Hannah was that beautiful, and then Eugene Levy...lololol. Good fun i tell ya.

The perfect man.

From this picture its obvious that Perfection is relative. I don't want a guy who is so ribbed, aargh. But i do like someoone who can iron his own clothing, and mine sometimes ;D

Still, this has been the topic of debate, who is perfect? is there anyone who is? you ask, we really can't know perfect. Bu what does perfect even mean. 'Perfection' has been defined as being complete and flawless. Tis can only exist within discrete states. Any analog situation could never be perfect, therefore we humans, there is no hope of/for perfection.

Still, what do people mean by the perfect..

ok, this made me LOL and quite loudly too. Not perfect for me, i don't like a quiet man, neither do i like  a clown.

Some people believe there are perfect guys, like a blog i read, where the ladý's dilemma was that the guy was perfect but she didnt like him. He was either imperfect, or she was just plain crazy and making excuses. If he was perfect , there would be no question of like/not.

I have given this a thought, i mean, who hasnt at my age. I have 'prevented' myself from dating a number of characters. They seemed like nice guys infact they are great guys but not ok for me. I just can't, i won't settle for anything. Who even wants to be someone, someone else settled for.. The need or want for a partner has to transcend my selfishs need if i am 100% honest or it won't happen. And i know i'm not quite there.

But when i get there, i will find that man, the perfect man and put his picture right here,

LOL.

Break!

Tomoro is Democrazy day woohoo!! somebody say House party!!
Lets go there!

Friday to Sunday..good time to relax and do those things ive procrastinated the whole week..
Before i go..

Dudes

The Audacity of ignorance blows me away, one dude says to me "And i be correct guy o, too bad for you" ???? correct guy indeed! the guy wey even resemble shrek, infact shrek fine pass am..telling me too bad, na by fox to like someborri!!

School on Crack
So i applied to this school in Detroit for Grad, and i just received yesterday the third application package, which contains a flash drive and a nice book..i have spoken extensively with the Admissions officer and told her i wouldnt be attending because of the high fees ($80K plus for two years) and the fact they offer no assistance to international students. I dont know if its an error on their part or a way to convince me to attend the school (which i really wanna but mehn..that moni!)

My Blog

Some people read my blog and waylay me, saying stuff like "i read your blog" with a crooked smile implying they "know" me..theres A LOT i do not blog about, so please folks..dont go about with that assumption. Its all me, but not All of me. :)

Till next week, ma pipu, happy holidays!!

A friend is going to audition for Project Fame..gud luck gally!

Of Weddings, Horosope andThings

Had to get this in, before i take my internet break. :D

Actually a friend of mine asked me this question today

when is your own wedding na?

in 4years and one month i replied, well thats what facebook says and the strange thing is, its exactly the same month my sister got married and her particular age too . .

Hearing about weddings makes me have cold feet, my friend also told me about two people we know who met on Nairaland.com and are arranging their wedding now, and another friend of mine from school (classmate)told me her wedding date had been fixed for July.

I always did dream about one kain fantastic wedding like that but the closer it gets, the more the probability drops, its one of those things you cant afford to make a mistake about, the only way out of it is death, imagine the finality of it! and the horoscope says my best match is Capricorn, where do i get those from now!

i guess if or when you feel right about it, it'll happen my friend said,

Yeah i guess but i really dont want all that ceremony and paparazzi
id like something like this---->http://www.mymodernmet.com/profiles/blogs/a-simply-chic-wedding-14

Really, Nigerian weddings..r just, i don't want my face in peoples houses on bowls, cups, buckets theyd use to pack shit or something, calender,writing pads they'd tear up
participating in my sisters wedding really opened my eyes further, i wont do it like that at all, my family may rage. .

they will rage but in the end, it should really be what you want my friend says

exactly, besides they have five other people to settle them
four now..actually.lol

i just want it cute, lovely, small, classy, special, unique :D


I am Virgo,

NB:i dont do horoscope, astrology thingy thingy, its just fun sometimes, but i gotta admit, many things they describe fits.

The Next Big Thing

I know I have been away for quite a while, lots of things have happened. i said in an earlier post that this was goin to be my year of thanksgiving, from my sisters wedding to my graduation its been great and its just been God!

So many things happened along the way but right now the only memories I have are of those that matter. someone told me the big thing for me was my graduation and asked if i was ready for the next big thing.

I thought to my self the next big thing? what would that be, I want to go for Masters and I already work, i guess the next big thing would be marriage.

Marriage!!!!woooshh!! the thought makes me catch cold! not that its bad but its no small decision
apart from my problem of finding fault in almost every guy I know, I wonder where that prince charming is going to come from. I'm an optimistic person and I'm in no hurry, but as each day passes it signals the fact that one is advancing, well in age. I'm really not bothered right now but I will keep my hopes high while I wait for my Next Big Thing

Valentine, Guys and I

Vals day has had no meaning to me
since i grew up with the thought that it was a 'lovers' day
and i am in no hurry to have a lover

I have never had a boyfriend, i have never been valed
i dont even like collecting gifts, is that a valid excuse?lol

Pre-vals,
This is the day before Vals, Vals eve as it is also called, the girl prepares her mind for what the guy is gonna unleash!
Cakes
Teddies
Chocolates
Perfumes
Plastic Flowers. ....
it hardly passes all these things o

Those wey go roast don already know themselves, he he heh

Vals Day
Well the day just comes and goes like anyother, sometimes i have exams on that day
this time around it was like people had given up on vals, it was sooo dry
chai! i managed to chop only one cake!
The guy who is supposed to do the honorable thing for me, gave some excuses, its all good jo!
the day is gooooone!

Post-Vals, what happens now?
the guy checks his account balance, hoping he can still survive till Daddy tops him up or Payday finally comes!
The girl evaluates the relationship based on the quality of gifts she recieves.lol

Wo!, me i just want something sweet to eat
that cant be too hard to get
Where is this Cakes n creams number sef?