How to Keep a Man

On this post I'm going to teach you how to keep a man..................NOT!

I wonder why people, women! think of such things. If a man has to be 'kept' and you actually have to go about devising ways to 'keep' him, you have failed. You don't want to admit the fact that the man doesn't really like you. Instead you think someone is going to 'snatch' him. LOL. 

Sorry, but if you think it's your cooking that will 'keep' him, think again, because there are too many people out there with better skills. If you think it's your bedroom skills, just laugh at yourself right now. If you think it's your money..do I even need to go on. It's obvious that a man will only be with you if he wants to. When a man believes he has found someone special, no Jupiter is going to keep him away from staying, except YOU push him away. So next time you think you have to keep someone, just know that's a sign to let that person go right there.

Cheers.

Women in Nigerian History

I have been doing some reading and research on particular Nigerian culture. People now resident in 'Edo' state to be precise. And it has shown me some things I knew had to be there. I can't make a full post now because I don't have notes, I lost my library card and I can't get another till..bla blah. So far I have to make do it with what I got out of it and I've been trying to write a story.

Anyways the point of this particular post is the fact that most Africans, or let me narrow it down to Nigerians, don't know where they come from, they never bothered to look at the past which has begun to affect their present way of thinking. One day we were in the sitting room, having a laugh. Then one of my uncles asked me, if Jesus Christ was for culture or against culture. He was for culture, I replied, but apparently the missionaries got it all wrong. And then a discussion ensued, between my uncles in their 40s/50s and I. Everyone agreed that the Missionaries approach was wrong and they were then used as mules for Colonialism. But one of my Uncles argued that we didn't have a good way of life..really, so in the long run it was all good, women were oppressed and what not. This was were I had to interject sharply. From my research on the tribes in present-day Edo state, Women held positions of power, they were chiefs, they chose their own way of life. The penalties of raping a woman was exile e.t.c Women were held in high esteem, it was hard to witness the loss of one woman to another tribe (in marriage). My Uncle was stunned.

If people don't take the time to understand or learn about the past, how is the quality of our present or future life going to get better. We need to educate ourselves.

Reading Always helps

I woke up feeling all sorts of weird, my stomach...and when I don't feel alright in my body it tends to affect other parts of my life majorly, especially my thinking ability. But thankfully, if I can get to read I feel MUCH better. I may not be able to articulate thoughts properly..check the awkward 1hr conversation I had with a friend, ok..it was 50% Cool 50% Awkward. Anyways! I also learnt a couple of things from my uncle (EPA + DHA)omega-3, which I intend to put to good use in between him accusing me of suffering from rejection and that I shouldn't beg anyone...I can't say I'm devoid of emotions over the issue, I'm just disappointed and I'm angry with myself..ugh. I intended to blog about my research findings yesterday, but this condition..yah, I hope I feel way better when I wake up , much later today, I may even go outside for some fresh air.

So here I am, listening to a classical radio (Bach on now, quite somber) and clearing out my tabs! long story, but you get the picture, I need to have something organised!! my mind is a mess. I went a bit of blog hopping today, and decided to steal an idea from one of them blogs while i lamented the inability of mine to read or even bother about blogs which come in a black background and green text, throw in some purple flashing lights and red dots. Argh.

So anyhow, this is for you..

Links of the past present and future, enjoy.

Fela on Nigeria  -- http://t.co/SaCWtDl

An Introvert Stands Up for The Right to Stand Alone  -- http://t.co/SaCWtDl

Tosin Martins "Silent Night" -- http://t.co/SaCWtDl

Animated 8 Bit Video Game Themed, Promoting Safe Sex -- http://t.co/TOTXlHd

African Women in UK Silently Suffer Domestic Violence http://allafrica.com/c/-3yZ7u

Femininity Vs Feminism

The Feminist movement is not about empowering woman to be feminine, it uses masculine tactics to achieve its agenda, Feminism doesn’t stand for femininity which is where a woman’s true power lies, though it pursues some causes that make it seem honourable like the fight for equal pay ans some other rights it masks a plan that is far more sinister than the masses or even some of the leaders could believe.

In the end this will do us more harm than good. Anytime a power struggle ensues between any two opposing forces there’s hardly any place for peace. Any so called movement that operates under any form of sexism will end up being divisive at best. If we are all on the bandwagon of feminism we will find ourselves heading in an opposite direction of where we wanted to go.

Some say it’s a lesbian movement, the thing is the main women fighting for abortion never even wanted children in the first place, and do you really want to do everything that men do? That is a potent question we need to ask ourselves. Look at men, look at them like you have never before, would you give up you womanhood to be like them? Don’t you have better things to do with your time than battle over issues that have no urgent relevance to your world?

This feminist movement is out of control. In the passion and appeal of fighting for our rights they have failed to see the friction it creates between woman and men in everyday exchanges. Men cannot seem to get a word because a woman suddenly thinks she doesn’t have to listen to him

All movements are dangerous when they result in fighting in the flesh, we know this world is primarily spiritual but we constantly forget this, the bible says “But knowing we battle against not flesh n blood but principalities and wickedness in high places”.

Lasting victory over any issue in this life can only be gained as we war in the spirit, God is the true champion of liberation, and we must submit our causes to him.

These feminist are usually very angry, and we know that anger usually masks extreme pain; it is not conducive to the healing process. But no one is beyond the hope of redemption, the hope of healing and deliverance.

God is the creator, he made the woman because he knew that it wasn’t good for man to be alone, the woman has a part to play in this world by being who God made her to be, as feminine as possible, she is also made in Gods image, if Adam was sand refined, Eve was doubly refined being that she was even taken out of him.

God’s image is such that the man reflects more of the mind of God while the woman reflects more of his heart, it is obviously so, We women wield a power of influence which is more potent than the power of authority the men wield.

Even Satan recognized the fact and went straight to Eve not Adam, knowing the power Eve had over him, and God said there and I will put enmity between you and the woman, and between your seed and her Seed. Why not the man? This shows how much power a praying woman has, we only have to look into the bible and see examples, there are so many women who use their femininity to get things done without trying to be like a man, the word for today is

Embrace your Femininity in the Lord!