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Sunday, June 13, 2010

More INFJ stuff

I hope I aint obsessing too much, I took this test last year, but had to write a report lately which used aspects of it, so I've been reading stuff and I'm sharing :)

Of the sixteen type personalities, only about 2% of the population fall into this category, so consider yourself pretty privileged to know me! In practical terms, that means I'm pretty quiet around new people but a wonderful, faithful and a fiercely loyal friend once you get to know me. I usually vacillate between completely serious and totally crazy. I am generally quick witted and full of contradictions such as, I like control, but prefer to be the passenger and the listener. I am very easy going, easy to get along with, and extremely tolerable of most any situation. I'm very attentive and understanding.

The INFJ takes his/her energy from the inner world of thoughts and emotions. He/she prefers dealing with patterns and possibilities, particularly for people, and makes decisions using personal values. 
His/her life is organized on a personal basis. He/she often has a private sense of purpose in life, and works steadily to fulfil that goal. He/she demonstrates a quiet concern for people, being interested in helping them to develop and grow. He/she is good at developing insight into people, though it can often remain unexpressed.

(I) Introversion:
People who prefer introversion tend to focus on the inner world of ideas and impressions.
(N) iNtuition:
People who prefer intuition tend to focus on the future, with a view toward patterns and possibilities.
(F) Feeling:
People who prefer feeling tend to base their decisions primarily on values and on subjective evaluation of person-centered concerns.
(J) Judgement:
People who prefer judgment tend to like a planned and organized approach to life and prefer to have things settled.
Quietly forceful, original, and sensitive. Tend to stick to things until they are done. Extremely intuitive about people, and concerned for their feelings. Well-developed value systems which they strictly adhere to. Well-respected for their perseverance in doing the right thing. Likely to be individualistic, rather than leading or following.
INFJs are warm and affirming people who are usually also deep and complex. They're likely to seek out and promote relationships that are intense and meaningful. They tend to be perfectionists, and are always striving for the Ultimate Relationship.
For the most part, this is a positive feature, but sometimes works against the INFJ if they fall into the habit of moving from relationship to relationship, always in search of a more perfect partner. In general, the INFJ is a deeply warm and caring person who is highly invested in the health of their close relationships, and puts forth a lot of effort to make them positive. They are valued by those close to them for these special qualities. They seek long-term, lifelong relationships, although they don't always find them...sad eh
INFJ Strengths
--Warm and affirming by nature
--Dedicated to achieving the ultimate relationship Sensitive and concerned for others' feelings
--Usually have good communication skills, especially written
--Take their commitments very seriously, and seek lifelong relationships....100% true
--Have very high expectations for themselves and others (both a strength and weakness)....80% true
--Good listeners......depends on the person.lol, but 100% true
--Are able to move on after a relationship has ended (once they're sure it's over)....100% true!!
INFJ Weaknesses
--Tendency to hold back part of themselves....very much so
--Not good with money(untrue) or practical day-to-day life necessities....well to an extent
--Extreme dislike of conflict and criticism.....I DO NOT like conflicts oooh, very unsettling
--Have very high expectations for themselves and others (both a strength and weakness)
--Have difficulty leaving a bad relationship...... I don't think so
INFJs are warm, considerate partners who feel great depth of love for their partners. They enjoy showing this love, and want to receive affirmation back from their mates.They are perfectionists, constantly striving to achieve the Perfect Relationship. This can sometimes be frustrating to their mates, who may feel put upon by the INFJs demanding perfectionism. However, it may also be greatly appreciated, because it indicates a sincere commitment to the relationship, and depth of caring which is not usually present in other types. 
Sexually, INFJs view intimacy as a nearly spiritual experience. They embrace the opportunity to bond heart and soul with their mates. As service-oriented individuals, it's very important to them that their mates are happy. Intimacy is an opportunity for the INFJ to selflessly give their love, and experience it in a tangibleway. Match with ENTP or ENFP.
"Idealists" (INFJ) search for ideal love, longing to find the perfect "soul mate" with whom they can share their inner lives

Saturday, June 12, 2010

Limbo!

If you aren't catholic, or you just saw or heard this word for the first time, you'd probably think its a South American form of dance, one where you would 'ben-low' on the sands of a crystal blue beach. pretty picture eh. you would be right but I wish that's what I was talking about. *sigh*

Limbo is hell...on the edge they say. but it could be worse than the supposedly 'worst' thing. I was on the bus going to school (seems like i do a lot thinking on the bus these days) but limbo just popped into my head, I don't want to be in limbo I thought quite strongly. I love to know where I stand with people.

I don't like people that confuse me, those are people who are opaque and I cant really discern. People tend to drain me, but i know i have the right person when i get sparks of energy, even if they drain me after a while. But for folk who are opaque, they give me such a hard time.

I don't have time for time-wasters really.lol, like a South African song says, its either ngedwathanda or ngedwayeka, you either 'love' me or you leave me alone...no limbo.
Everything or Nothing.
Thank you.

Signed: MGNT.

Friday, June 11, 2010

Vuvuzela

Doesnt this word sound like a disease?
The sound is even worse,
Like a million zillion bees
Like a trillion Anopheles around your head
Like the worst traffic jam ever.

So irritating and annoying on unimaginable scales
i suggest they hire some Nigerian Horns!

iLike


I'm sure by now, everyone knows how much I love dogs, I would even be participating in the Great North dog walk on Sunday to raise money for dogs in sheds and shelters.

I love dogs, but not all dogs..abi, dog pass dog.lol
I met this cute big dog on my way home today,
Just the way i like my dogs......Husky

Thursday, June 10, 2010

Hypnotized by Colour

I was riding on the bus today, and had this crazy feeling.
I had been looking at this girl, from when she boarded the bus
I had thought,
I love her jacket, her skirt..ooh my word, she's my kind of person!
But then she had these colours on.
I had thought,
Lovely colour, I wish I had a scarf and tights in that colour
Then I started to fall.
I was being hypnotized,
I never thought,
Colours would have this effect on me
This colour could have this effect on me
I thought,
Am I dreaming?, figments?
I smiled,
I really do love this and whatever happens doesn't matter.

What mystery!, this colour, Emerald.

Wednesday, June 9, 2010

Experimentology

So i made eba with a microwave,
honestly its the best i've ever made

haaaaaaaaaa

oh my word! I havent even gotten off the back of that rant,
and i already have another!

People who say 'i just wanted to say hi'
after rolls of conversation that have you frustrated..
KMT!

Sharing you, Slaying me

Just a lil rant before my anger fades away.
Social networking sites, is a lot of things, many of which i like.
But over-sharers piss me off!

I remember tweeting quite vehemently on the matter, but my points
were directed at the fact that perhaps, you not only have to deal with
a break-up, you have to see it plastered all over the interwebs.

One minute you are their profile picture, the next minute, its someone else.
you have to deal with facebook status like 'I have found love at last'
Tweet messages like, @soandso i love you till i die, and plenty heart-wrenching
truths or lies or have-no-clues.

What happened to privacy, decorum? considerations.

I honestly don't know how people handle these things, but for me..
even though separation was mutual and amicable, i wouldn't want to see what they
are up to next and see it plastered all over the world.
it obviously wont be enough to 'un-friend' them, or 'unfollow' as the case may be,
because hey..its the interwebs, you are interconnected with others, and you will still encounter
the persons on one level or another.

Yeah you know you have to deal with people moving on, but i'm sure it would be just as annoying
if you saw them everyday, saw ur -ex (i hate this term) every single day, and in your house, with this person
all over themselves, imagine! lol

Solutions, Get off the SNS? i think not, (maybe for some people, not for me at this point)
I just think people should quit over sharing jo, and try to be considerate of their fellow man, that can't be too hard abi?
Over and out.

Tuesday, June 8, 2010

Something i found


INFJ Women

They are sensual
Their inner beauty, essential
Allow me to send them my regards
In the sky of intellectuals
They are stars


A different kind of sensuality
Caught between dream
And reality


An inner world for few to find
A hidden treasure
To which most are blind


They enchant me
With their unnatural naturality
They entrance me
Cast a spell on me
With their peaceful audacity


Is it so wrong to patronize
In this thought of mine
Alone agonize
Thinking they are sexy
Sensual women in disguise


INFJ women are sexy
Beautiful inside
Sensual on the outside
Angels in nature
Amazing on both sides

Steve Palaras

The Protector

Thats what one of the profiles says my type is...
Confused?
Thought as much.

Errhm, One of the first semester requirements for a particular module was to take a test called the Myers-Briggs Type indicator test. There are 12 identified types and if you do the test honestly to the best of your ability and thinking faculty. You should get something atleast 80% accurate, i kid you not. This is a tried and tested measure..of course its not perfect, how can?!? but it hits the spot at some points.

So well i came up as an 


INFJ



What’s it like to be me?


The quest for more knowledge, the meaning of life, the philosophical questions—my mind is always occupied, and what’s exciting is when I get to follow through with an insight and do something. I am an abstract future thinker, looking at things from different perspectives. I’m about the relationships and possibilities and enjoy anything with deeper meaning that leaves me wondering, with more questions to ask and things to untangle. Connecting for me means being able to intuitively ask questions of people to get them to go deeper into the things they are talking about.
Inspiring others, helping them find their purpose or meaning, being a different kind of leader from what’s traditional—that’s really gratifying. I just do that naturally. The challenge is opening up people’s minds to have their own original thoughts. I’m a listener and guide.

I think I am a mystery to people. They never really understand me and part of me enjoys that. More often though, I long to be understood.

I tend to approach my day with a structured way of getting things accomplished. People see me as organized, thorough, and easy to get along with, pulling my own weight and eager to help out when called upon. But I’m not as outgoing or as critical as I may sometimes appear. I need a balance between people contact and working on creative projects and will break away from interactions when I get tired out. If I don’t have some long-term goals, then what’s the point

I tend to intuitively read people very quickly, but I have to be cautious not to make assumptions. I’m an observer. I get a feeling when people are interesting, and I watch from a distance, make some assessments about the situation, and then approach them and engage in conversation. I put a little bit out and a little more and see how that goes. Do I trust and like them, are they who they say? I have a few deep friendships. A friendship comes best when it is worked to develop that investment. I quickly pick up on sincerity and withdraw if the person is superficial or obviously doesn’t care. When I see people who abuse their power or won’t stand behind what they say, that ticks me off. It’s about integrity. I feel other people’s feelings, and taking on that burden can make me too intense and serious, where I can’t be spontaneous and fun loving...

Everything revolves around growth. Caring is about the ability to help others grow. What I bring is caring about people, not things. If we spent more time trying to understand each other’s point of view, to communicate more effectively, we would grow. In an honest, open, sincere relationship, I can accomplish anything. My challenge is to create those kinds of relationships. 

I respect most the person who is willing to come forth and be an individual—to make the world a better place, or make a difference in a person’s life, where we reach each other’s hearts.



Friday, June 4, 2010

Love Potion

 

My friend says he is sure I must feel lonely. I like my friend, he got married last year, and believes we all should follow suit. But do some people ever stop to think for one second that not all must apply to everyone. I am still discovering who I am, as we all are. And one thing I have uncovered so far is, boy o boy, i don't like to waste my time with folk whom I cannot respect their minds. It kills me. People who haven't for one second, questioned anything. I don't understand how anyone could live like that.

Anyway, So he says I must need someone after a long day at school, to come back to and..well you get the picture. To be honest, at this point in time, I'd rather come back to a bucket of ice-cream and a cool bed, than anything else. I honestly don't think I'm lonely, but i do feel it would be really nice to have someone, maybe i am... But its not a matter of life or death. and i am not willing to compromise. I absolutely love Simon Cowell! #Random. lol

I was invited to a 'thing' at a club last night but in my usual fashion, weighed my options and opted out. I love my space, I love who I am uncovering. some think that's not enough, some reckon I'm untrue to myself..oh well. So i figured possibly the only way out of this would be to drink this potion, and yeh probably fall in love with the first human i see. If i see my local Pakistani Hip Hop Hooray, my own don finish o!

Sunday, May 30, 2010

Naked

''All we ever want is, to look good naked, and hope that someone would take it..''

I am not an advocate for nakedness, heck, put your clothes on, my friend! Anything that tends towards looking naked, you won''t find me in..no except I have the body of errm eerm..but i digress.
I loved this song the first time i heard it, while those around me debated hotly on what the song really was saying. it didn't matter to me. Only recently did something from this song hit me. 

We all, really want to look good naked, most of us..I must say. We want to be accepted for every mark, wart, mole, bump, flaw that may seem unattractive. Its about being vulnerable...being yourself completely and hoping someone wouldn't take it for granted.

I'm yet to find someone to whom, this doesn't apply. Even for me, i love being clothed, you can't know whats underneath, if i have the body of a thirteen year old boy or a young lady. until i open myself open, until we open ourslves up.

One question i'd ask is, what does it matter really?...I realise that at the end of the day, no matter how stoic believe me, i'm not exactly happy with this.lol but no matter how stubborn or how many shells we've built around ourselves. we want someone who would see beyond all that, someone who would go underneath, see it all and still, take us for who we are. wy? because we are who we are, we will never ever ever be someonelse... if in doubt... Ask Hitler :)

Unblogged

A lot has happened these past days that remained unblogged..i'm really struggling with this blog thing :(.

Anyway, i have been;
 sad,
depressed, 
drained, 
sick, 
ill, 
crazy, 
mad, 
angry,
anxious,
happy.

But i have decided to let it all go, if i do remember something that stood out from these past days i will be sure to blog about it, but for now....
KMT yesterday!!! :D

Sunday, May 16, 2010

Hair!!

I know the last time i measured it, it was 6inches, i couldn't really tell how long it was 6inches for but seeing the growth vividly makes me happy! i will keep wearing my braids but let my hair rest for about two weeks bbefore putting the braids in again


February 12 2010


May 15 2010



Saturday, May 15, 2010

Musings on Marriage, Life and things.

I attended a Child protection seminar today, and this along with a couple of questions, i had asked myself earlier began to come to take some shape. I had pondered, what exactly are people concerned about A man getting married to a 13yr old girl.
I can vividly remember when i was 13, i was almost S.abused, but i was 'aware' still i cannot transpose my experiences on any other person. But my main concerns with someone marrying a 13 yr would be if its forced, but that is not unique to a 13yr old, so what is unique about a 13yr olds situation?

A Child, some would say..a child at 13? we may try to pretend but we know there's no innocence at 13, not in our world of today. Maybe in a society where people are raised in caves, even then!

Emotional Maturity....What is this? how is it measured??

Physical Maturity....this varies from person to person, as a thirteen year old i was just a stick figure, akin to a praying mantis, but i looked over at the other grass, ooh i had mates who had the shape of 18yr olds, heck i couldn't believe they were in my age range! even now that i moved just an inch away from my stick figure likeness, I still wonder, what physical maturity means.

Dynamics of Marriage...lol this looks like a book Faith Oyedepo would write, that's if she doesn't already have one in peoples homes.

OOh well, I've exhausted my though span for now, but no one should misconstrue my approach. I really don'think 13 yr olds should be getting but that's just my opinion not a life fact. I also dont think people should be kissing, but hey its MHO.

Thursday, May 13, 2010

The past few Days...

Its been a looooooong minute!, its always amazing how, a few days make so much difference in one's life. Through out the weekend i was focused on getting one of my essays out, which i turned in on Monday. So the weekend was a bit of a blur, except when i went with my Zimbabwean friend, Brenda to a Mary Kay event where we got free gifts, and then decided with the change on us to get some Chinese food. We ended up walking back home, and eating the food on the way, it was tres funny and fun!

Along the way we met one of our mutual friends, a guy who had recently just gotten back from the hospital where he was admitted because he had been beaten by random people one fateful night, it gave me the chills. Obviously hate-inspired, oour damm world!
 ****Breathe****

Monday was one of my friends birthday, and guess what! she planned to go to Whitley Bay! Whitley Bay i had gone to for the first time the last week on a project. I was way too surprised! anyways, she wanted us to go ice-skating. After a long day at school, and stopping for seconds to see a spectacle in the city center, i went home. Only to get my house mate saying someone she had met at church, a Nigerian guy had invited us to a dinner, where He would be cooking!! Mehh, hard decisions, man! Friend Vs New Guy, Free Food Vs Cake, Ice-Skating Vs Warm getogether.... Well of course you have to weigh your priorities. Amd i reckon, one celebrates a birthday only once in a year..so..lol
It was great fun!! yeah i'd never been on the ice before, butt for a beginner, i really did well, if i say so myself :D, pictures yay!

Tuesday, was just a tension filled day, we had to get our presentation and pdf together, i left school the latest i've ever done. I was just so spazzed out.

Wednesday!! everyone was geared up and ready to go, not before one of our ash struck coursemate, Alisha, gave out little presents, it was so cute! and then she gave me a special one, because i had helped her submit her assignments while she was still stuck...i would never have expected the gesture in a million years, plus she had given me a token for what i had spent even if i brushed it off.

Presentations went well, albeit some slight blimps here and there, but overall everyone was upbeat and it just kind of flowed. After we went for Post- Celebration Celebrations!! lol (inside joke.hehe), had a pint and headed home, Great day overall.

Here i am, had to blog, but i really should go sleep now though, no break for long between projects so i have to be in at 9:30 to get on, great times ahead! ;D

Friday, May 7, 2010

In the pockets

''I'm on the pursuit of happiness and I know everything that shine ain't always gonna be gold



I'll be fine once I get it, I'll be good''


I like this song, i really do, but nahh, i dont believe Happiness should be pursued, i mean who has actually managed to catch it. If you think you'll be fine when you get 'it' pursue on!

Someone asked me quite recently 'What are you looking for', 'Nothing' i replied. The person thought that was a very strange answer but then again considered the originator.lol. By now it's established that i don't believe in a pursuit of happiness.

Someone else argued, 'So does this mean we should live life, without goals or ambitions?' i said no, then why would we be living? We tend to forget that we don't just live for ourselves but everyone we will affect in some form. But when you transpose happiness on the goal or ambition exclusively, then you have a problem there. It is about the process, someone else would say and i'm inclined to agree to that.

Happiness is in the pockets, the little things we overlook. I know one of the happiest places to be for me, is under the shower..alone. I'm a water girl ;) (no mamiwater o) I'm not trying to pursue happiness, yes i know certain things make me happy, but i embrace what is obtainable at the moment. I don't think anyone should cheat themselves out of the life and the things they have NOW, instead of trying to pursue a mirage.

In the pockets, my dear people, in the pockets.

Thursday, May 6, 2010

Finally Gone.


Our President, Umaru YarAdua, dead at 58. There wasn't much this man did for the country i firmly believe, but when it comes down to it, a president is still a man, a human being. It saddens me when i see young people die, when i see sickness consume a life.
 I believe this man had a good heart, but was saddled with the wrong people around him. This was someone that would probably have never ran for president. I feel sad, i never liked the jokes that were coined from his name and what not, i remember someone actually ejecting me off their friend list because i stood against stuff like that. Now, He is dead, He is dead.

I am happy he can finally rest now, i can't imagine the anguish he would have gone through. Even if he just died now or months back, there is no doubt he suffered extreme pain, both from his ailment and the burden of evil around him.

Now we move on, I am proudly Nigerian, and i want my country great. The next step is to give the reins to the right person. Somehow, i hope this goes well, but now in this moment, R.I.P YarAdua.

Saturday, May 1, 2010

Holiday

So I have one essay off my chest, still have two to get down to. I'm seriously dreading the presentations and i don't know what to do about that. I'm sitting here, feeling so lazy, don't know what to do about that. I want to sleep, but I can't, I want to eat but I can't, I don't know what to do about that.

Good Intentions

Frankly, i am tired of having good intentions without following through, its so easy to think about stuff to do, what about actually doing them?
I am revamping myself this semester, these remaining months would be the 'Just Do it'
Doing stuff, whether with a good outcome or not makes me feel alive, I have recently come to realise...