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Friday, March 18, 2011

The Mrs Club pt.2

Engagement ring..check
Traditional ceremony ring...check
Court wedding ring..check
White/Mosque wedding ring..check
Surname change..Check!

I am pleased to inform you, you are now a certified member of the Mrs Club!

Lately, I have been having issues with jewelry, I get irritated easily. I doubt I would be able to stand wearing a ring for so long! Talking about taking on a husband surname..I love my surname and I've always been of the opinion that I wouldn't be dropping it. We could form a compound name like Akintola-williams Jeje-philips..really nice looking to me. I always had the dream of marrying a yoruba guy, with a Taylor, Pedro, William, Phillips surname. lol, Igbo surnames were a big no-no. 
Now, I'm not so sure. Infact the idea of taking on someone else's surname is becoming increasingly weird to me, how did this even start. You become Mrs..somebody..I thought the idea of a marriage was cleaving to each other, not disappearing into the man where your only identity is not for me.

So why would people do all it takes to become a part of this club? In the movie I watched yesterday, I agreed with this;

''This ritual called a wedding ceremony is really just the final scene of a fairy taleThey never say what happens after. That Cinderella drove the prince mad by obsessively cleaning the castle, cause she missed her day job'' 

Gbam. People just want to have that ceremony, what happens after? No one knows. But we become certified Mr/Mrs. It becomes more about 'status' than about love. The ones who don't realize this, end up hurting the children born under such conditions, and the cycle keeps going on. Maybe when people realize that this is not a do or damned affair, we could have some change.


jemimahnaa said...

lol!!! i was thinking that exact same phrase after i watched 'tangled'!the movies always stop at "...and they lived happily ever after". wat is the definition for living happily ever after and what are they not telling us.talking bout dropping my name,i dunno 'bout that yet or if i'm gonna do the compound thing but my husbands name must try sha!! i can understand u not wanting to drop ur surname,i love it, its short and nice to the ears..till den..its definitely no 'do or damned' tho!!

GamineGirlie said...

lol. This has actually prompted me to write a romance novel, that doesn't stop at they lived happily ever after..

jemimahnaa said...

yay!!! it should be and they quarelled and had issues! but got them sorted and grew to understand and love each oda and they had even more fights.... or smtn in those lines

GamineGirlie said...

Yeah, the book actually starts off with a 'fight' lol, then it goes into the whole romance before they met, and after they married, lots of fights, and then someone dies.

jemimahnaa said...

thats life!